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Supporting a Friend Through Fertility Treatments or Infertility

By: Emily Pardy, LMFT, PMH-C

Navigating the tumultuous waters of fertility treatments and infertility can be an overwhelming journey for anyone. As a licensed therapist, I witness the immense challenges faced by those on this path. For friends with loved ones going through such hardships, it can be equally perplexing. You may find yourself at a loss for words, unsure of how to extend your support. I want to offer a guide on supporting a friend through fertility treatments or infertility. Let's explore concrete ways to provide comfort, show understanding, and offer empathy in a delicate time when genuine connection matters most.

Empathetic Communication

When your friend is facing fertility treatments or infertility, empathetic communication becomes the cornerstone of your support. Acknowledge that you may not fully comprehend their journey, but assure them of your unwavering presence. Begin every text or conversation with phrases like "no need to follow up," "no need to reply," or "are you okay to talk about this right now?" These gentle openings allow them to express their emotions without feeling obligated to respond immediately. Providing an exit ramp shows respect for their emotional boundaries, fostering an environment of trust.

Open-Ended Questions

Embrace the power of open-ended questions when speaking with your friend about their experiences. Inquire about their well-being, treatment progress, or emotional state in a way that invites them to share their feelings freely. Offer a safe haven for expression without imposing any expectations. Remember, it is essential to honor their silence if they choose not to reply or decline to answer specific questions. Simply knowing that you are there to listen is often enough to provide comfort.

Research and Understanding

Empower yourself with knowledge about fertility treatments and infertility by doing your own research. We live in the internet era, so utilize the vast resources at your fingertips to understand medical procedures, terminologies, and potential treatments they may be undergoing. This initiative shows that you are invested in supporting them and relieves the pressure they may feel to explain everything to you. They will feel loved and cared for knowing you are helping hold space for their journey.

Supporting a friend through fertility treatments or infertility is an art of understanding, compassion, and genuine care. As a licensed therapist, I recognize the profound impact your heartfelt support can have on their journey. By fostering empathetic communication, offering open-ended questions, and doing your own research, you become an unwavering pillar of strength in their time of need.

In friendship, it’s not about having all the answers, but rather about providing a haven where emotions can be expressed without judgment. Embrace the privilege of walking alongside your friend through this intricate and sensitive chapter of their life. Your compassion and willingness to learn will create a space where they feel valued, heard, and understood.

Remember, supporting a friend through fertility treatments or infertility is about acknowledging their emotions, respecting their boundaries, and being present without imposing your expectations. As you embark on this journey together, your friendship will grow stronger, and the bond between you will stand the test of time.


If you find yourself in need of professional help, don't hesitate to reach out to us and schedule a session. Our dedicated team at Ready Nest Counseling is here to help you navigate life's challenges and transitions with care and compassion. Whether you're experiencing difficulties related to conception, pregnancy, postpartum, infertility, loss, parenting, or relationships our therapists are ready to support you. We offer both in-person and virtual therapy. Schedule a therapy session with us today and take the first step towards a healthier you. Remember, you don't have to face it alone – we're here for you.


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